WTF
I'm starting to think God forgot that I exist.
I made the mistake of moving home to live with my mother. Two nights ago, the woman who usually goes to bed around 9:30, especially when I want to hang out with her, went out on a date with the new man. I reiterate from my previous entry, I like the new guy. It's mom I have a problem with. Two nights ago, my "can't stay awake late enough to watch a whole ER episode with my daughter" mother was out until 2 in the morning without so much as a phone call or heads up in any form of the matter. It was a snowy/icy night and she was 3 towns away on that date. Among other things, before she finally strolled in, I thought she was dead in a ditch somewhere. This is also the woman who wouldn't let me live it down if I got in 15 min past my 10:30 curfew (in high school), and made me call and narrate how my night will go if I was to be out later than anticipated. She also continues to make me tell her how late I'll be out now that I'm home again, or whenever TJ and I are both here. Umm, can we say hypocrite? She apparently doesn't think she owes me the same respect and makes it seem like it would be dumb of her to return the favor.
I told her after that one, that she can gain my trust and forgiveness back by redeeming herself the next date and giving me a heads up on how late she'll be. Last night she had a shining opportunity. Did she? Oh no, that would be too much to ask. Before she left last night, she said "Oh, I'll be home early, he's leaving for Colorado tomorrow morning at 7, so it'll be a short night." So apparently, to my 9:30pm bedtime mom, 12:30am means early. I told her, yeah in comparison to your last marathon date it's early, but in "mom time" that usually means 8pm or something like that. I didn't expect her at 8, but I figured she'd be home before I went to bed at 11 (I was sick and couldn't stay up any longer). No phone call, nothing this time. I refused to let myself worry about her and concluded that she's really not worth it anymore. Christ, woman, at least think of me as a roommate who cares about you, especially since I'm your daughter! I admit I have some adjustments to make in getting used to her late dating schedule now, but she can at least help me out a little and not leave me at home worrying and guessing. She yelled at me today "I'm NOT YOUR DAUGHTER!" to which I yelled back "Well apparently you forgot that I AM, and that you're acting like a teenager who's too cool to call your caring family!" And that leaves me at now. I'm forced to live with this, while the one person who I love and can't wait to get to live with is 300 miles away. I hate my life.
I made the mistake of moving home to live with my mother. Two nights ago, the woman who usually goes to bed around 9:30, especially when I want to hang out with her, went out on a date with the new man. I reiterate from my previous entry, I like the new guy. It's mom I have a problem with. Two nights ago, my "can't stay awake late enough to watch a whole ER episode with my daughter" mother was out until 2 in the morning without so much as a phone call or heads up in any form of the matter. It was a snowy/icy night and she was 3 towns away on that date. Among other things, before she finally strolled in, I thought she was dead in a ditch somewhere. This is also the woman who wouldn't let me live it down if I got in 15 min past my 10:30 curfew (in high school), and made me call and narrate how my night will go if I was to be out later than anticipated. She also continues to make me tell her how late I'll be out now that I'm home again, or whenever TJ and I are both here. Umm, can we say hypocrite? She apparently doesn't think she owes me the same respect and makes it seem like it would be dumb of her to return the favor.
I told her after that one, that she can gain my trust and forgiveness back by redeeming herself the next date and giving me a heads up on how late she'll be. Last night she had a shining opportunity. Did she? Oh no, that would be too much to ask. Before she left last night, she said "Oh, I'll be home early, he's leaving for Colorado tomorrow morning at 7, so it'll be a short night." So apparently, to my 9:30pm bedtime mom, 12:30am means early. I told her, yeah in comparison to your last marathon date it's early, but in "mom time" that usually means 8pm or something like that. I didn't expect her at 8, but I figured she'd be home before I went to bed at 11 (I was sick and couldn't stay up any longer). No phone call, nothing this time. I refused to let myself worry about her and concluded that she's really not worth it anymore. Christ, woman, at least think of me as a roommate who cares about you, especially since I'm your daughter! I admit I have some adjustments to make in getting used to her late dating schedule now, but she can at least help me out a little and not leave me at home worrying and guessing. She yelled at me today "I'm NOT YOUR DAUGHTER!" to which I yelled back "Well apparently you forgot that I AM, and that you're acting like a teenager who's too cool to call your caring family!" And that leaves me at now. I'm forced to live with this, while the one person who I love and can't wait to get to live with is 300 miles away. I hate my life.
posted by kitty Cat | 8:52 AM
8 Comments:
Remind her how much she hated dad not calling and coming home in the middle of the night, that should shut her up
Oh I did, she replied with "I know, I'll have to figure out some way to try; it just sounds odd that me, your 47 year old mother has to call my 22 year old adult daughter to let her know when I'm coming home"
So here's something of which I just thought...
Teach her how to use text messaging on her cell phone. Then suggest to her that if she will be late, she could excuse herself to go to the restroom and send you a text message from there. She won't have to call you, she won't have to substantially interrupt the night, and chances are her date won't think it's weird that she's taking her purse (containing her cell phone) to the restroom because so many women do that.
At last check you weren't carrying a plan for text messages, but I think they're only a dime apiece, so if she's only using texting for that purpose, it shouldn't cost much.
That's a good idea. I'm a little hesitant to try to show her the world of text-messaging, as it's extremely frustrating to try to teach her new stuff, especially when it has to do with technology.
Alltel charges a lot more than 10 cents a text, you have to add it to your plan. I think the cheapest is $5 or $10, but its per phone, so you both would have to add it.
That must vary by carrier, then; I could send and receive text messages on Verizon without adding a plan. I don't know anything about Alltel.
Okay, I don't know how to make links show up in a comment, but see below:
http://www.alltel.com/axcess/text_messaging.html
Yeah, for 10 cents a text, you can text people with Alltel without a text-contract thing. I do it all the time between friends.
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